Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Feeling Left Out

One of my young clients sent me an email about an incident with good friends over the weekend that triggered some old patterns.  The result was that she was stuck in feelings of sadness and exclusion.  Here's my reply:

My suggestion is for you to take a few moments to yourself and try the following:
1.      Go into TAT heart pose (left hand on heart/chest, right hand over left)
2.      Say: Everything that led up to this feeling excluded happened.
               Notice what, if anything comes up for you. Then:
3.      Say:  All that happened, it's over.  It's now safe for me to feel good.
               Notice what, if anything comes up for you. Then:
4.      Think about how you'd like to feel or be and put it into this sentence:
               I choose to be/feel _________________ (happy? calm?  connected to my friends? okay?)
 Aside from this TAT intervention, think about your need to be by yourself sometimes, or with one friend and not the other.  It doesn't mean you don't like them or want to stop being friends.  Consider that in this case, your friends may not be very different from you.
Let me know how you're doing.

Friday, September 5, 2014

We Truly Are All One

Last week one of my TAT Professionals colleagues initiated an interesting discussion on our forum. 

Her initial question was, "How does TAT work?"  This morphed into, "How is it that we can do TAT on behalf of others," and elicited several testimonials about how we practitioners experience benefits as a side effect of our work on our clients.

In a chapter entitled "The Quantum You," Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, author Dr. Joe Dispenza offers a simple but profound explanation.

Essentially once two particles can be initially linked in some way, they will always be bonded together beyond space and time.  As a result, anything that is done to one will be done to the other even though they are spatially separated from one another. This means that since we are made up of particles, we are all implicitly connected beyond space and time.   What we do unto others, we do to ourselves.

 This Golden Rule effect (as I think of it) underscores the importance of intention in every aspect of our lives.  This is why a strong rapport between you and any healer, body worker or partner is so crucial to the success of  your joint endeavor.  If the person who's working with you, touching you, healing you is truly holding your highest good in mind and heart, the result can be magical.  For both of you.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Ah, Those Stubborn Shadows

I'm about half-way through a training program to be certified as a Transformational Coach.  Since I do a lot of coaching in my practice, it seemed like a logical and expansive step.

Interestingly, I have encountered a lot of resistance to the self-discovery exercises that have taken up most of the training to date.  Some old, stubborn negativity has been groaning up from the dark recesses of my subconscious like Marlow's ghost.

In moments of clear consciousness, I am taken aback by my thoughts and resulting behavior.  Who is this judgmental, cranky person?  Didn't I eradicate her long ago?

Apparently not.

See that snake in the shadow I unwittingly photographed on a walk one day?  Snakes carry the Medicine of Transmutation -- as they are able to hold poison without the poison killing them.  I never expected that this certification would be yet another path of purification for me, but that's exactly what it has been. 

The good news is that it didn't take me as long as it in the past to recognize the shadow and apply some Light to diffuse it.  Very good news, indeed.  Otherwise I'd worry that I haven't made any progress at all in nearly 25 years of working on myself.

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Computer Hangover

After yoga yesterday morning, I spent most of the day and much of the evening at the computer, working on writing I had to get done.  I was in a great place mentally, feeling creatively juicy and productive. 

As the day wore on, a dull, congested feeling began to edge out the elation of accomplishment.  By 10 pm I was depleted and went to bed. 

But a good night's sleep?  Not to be had.  I tossed and turned most of the night, dozing lightly and then just waking up.

At some point it occurred to me that I had OD'd on the computer.  That staring at a monitor for so many hours did something hideous to my brain, even as I was getting so much done.

This morning I was able to sleep in a bit, but the computer hangover lingers.  Anyone else out there experience this sort of thing?

I definitely need to get better at taking some real breaks when I spend a lot of time with keyboard and monitor.  The kind of suggestion I often make to stressed-out clients, of course!

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Even When You Don't Think It's Working ...

Here is an experience I had with a darling 5-year-old boy last week.
I have never seen a child more active!  He bounced all over my waiting room and inner office, seemingly incapable of keeping his busy, curious little hands off just about anything he happened to see.  He had questions about everything, and made astonishing connections from the answers.  Obviously very, very bright!
His mom said that at school, the teacher was frustrated with him and there was talk of exploring medication.  
I managed to get him to try the Child's TAT Pose and say, "I am calm."  He didn't comply with any of my repeated requests to "look at things with your eyes instead of your  hands," and it took threatening to unplug the little floor fountain I have in my waiting room to get him to stop splashing the water all over; but each time I asked him (about 4 times over a 45-minute period) to go into "The Pose," he complied immediately. 
Still, by the time he and his exhausted, frazzled mom left, I wondered if they had gotten any value from their time with me.

This is an excerpt from the email I received from his mom this morning:

The calming strategy has been very helpful and I have had E. use it already! I have started doing it myself! :) We flew [out of state] to visit  family last night, but when we were on the shuttle to the airport E. started to get very hyper.  I had him do the pose and he was actually calm the rest of the way!  When we left your office, E. fell asleep right away!  I came home and ended up taking a 3 hour nap that felt more relaxed that any sleep I have had for awhile. So thank you for that! 

 And this is why I love TAT :-)

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Doing it Anyway

One of my clients went outside of her comfort zone this past weekend.  I had asked her to email me about her experience.

She reported back that she had gone to the movies by herself and had sent out an email inquiry regarding a class she's wanted to take.

Because she felt "nervous and a little uncomfortable," she had  not seen that she had indeed taken two strong actions until I pointed it out to her. 

Yes, she has the inner strength to live a more confident life and this weekend she proved it to herself.  The more she lives her life from that strong, increasingly confident place inside, the stronger and more confident she will be.

In the office, we will continue with EFT, TAT and hypnosis to fill-in those old grooves of nervousness and discomfort, step by step.


The Body Knows!

As part of my training in Essentials of Energy Psychology Level I before the ACEP Conference last week, I finally "got" muscle testing.

I've lost track of how many times over the years muscle testing has been part of a given curriculum for me.  For some reason, my brain applauded the principle but rejected the method...until now.

 When I wrote about this on my A Higher Perspective Facebook page last week, Beverly asked for an explanation of muscle testing.

I would put muscle testing under the category of ideomotor responses. The way a pendulum swings differently for "yes" and "no" when dangled from one's fingers is an ideomotor response.  The way we can designate a "yes" finger response and a "no" finger response in hypnosis is an ideomotor response.  The way the body sways forward as a "yes" and backward as a "no" is an ideomotor response.  These are all subconscious/unconscious physical responses to simple yes or no thoughts.  As the old saying goes, where thoughts go, energy follows.  Ideomotor responses of all types are graphic evidence of this.

With muscle testing, the client holds an arm out (it doesn't matter which one).  The arm can either be to the side, as shown in the illustration above, or straight out front.  The client is asked to think of something specific and hold the arm firm.  If the specific thought is true for the client, the arm will hold firm under a light pressure from the practitioner's hand or fingertips.  If the specific thought is not true for the client, he or she will be hard pressed (no pun intended) to hold firm.

If the client's energy is not balanced, the muscle testing will be skewed.  The same is true for any of the ideomotor responses.

I often teach clients about the pendulum as a way of illustrating the power of our thoughts and the relationship between thoughts and physical response.  In a way, the pendulum's movement mirrors the connection between handwriting and the brain.  Thoughts create movement. 

In the past, when the pendulum demonstration was clearly skewed (for example, both the "yes" and the "no" were the same movement) I knew there was a way to fix the energy imbalance, but was not able to perform the energy corrections.  No longer!  Now I have a skill set for correcting energy imbalances, regardless of what ideomotor response we're testing.

Muscle testing clients for how many sessions they need is just one use to which I plan to put this new skill set. The possibilities are limitless!

Thanks for asking, Beverly :-)