Tuesday, May 19, 2015

The Body Knows!

Several woo-ish resources confirm my experience over the past few years:  When it comes to transformation, the body is the last to get on board -- even more stubborn about adapting to change than the subconscious.

Using hypnosis and Energy Psychology techniques, we can ease the subconscious into alignment with one's desires.  But the body?  The body holds on to the "old ways" with a tenacity that has taken my breath away at times; literally so when I've fallen and twisted myself into painful ankle, knee and shoulder injuries.

Two weeks after moving from Fremont to San Ramon, I fell in an airport restroom, spraining my left knee and ankle and breaking my right shoulder.  That was in 1994, two years into my path as a hypnotherapist and just at the start of my training as a Handwriting Coach.  I'd embraced my middle name, Grace, and was healing family-of-origin patterns through changes in my handwriting.  Vimala Rodgers still talks about how I was obliged to take class notes with my non-dominant hand after limping into class with a single crutch under my left arm and my right arm in a sling.  A deeply transformative time for me in just about every way.

Think about your body and history of notable injuries.  Chances are good that any significant injuries align with times of change in your life.  Even not-so-significant physical challenges such as colds are symptoms of the mind-body-spirit connection. Louise Hay's seminal Heal Your Life is a perennial bestseller on the subject, a dictionary of emotional components that may contribute to a wide spectrum of physical conditions.

My friend Paula Conley is a devotee of channeled messages from Eloheim (www.eloheim.com) and often shares them with me.  Eloheim suggests the phrase, "I don't need to process this through my body."  I've used this phrase several times recently and find that it works very well.

I'd love to hear from you about how your body reacts to impending change.  What have you noticed?  How have you dealt with it?

Monday, September 29, 2014

I received this email today that really tickled me. 

I've edited it somewhat to protect the writer's privacy:

 I believe it may have been a couple years ago, my older daughter told me about a very spiritual woman she sat next to on a plane, This woman worked in the fields of hypnosis and writing analysis. She looked at M's handwriting and was quite accurate regarding her personality. M was very intrigued with the process and eventually saw a hypnotist in her hometown, which is in [a different part of the state.]

Fast-forward to this weekend over brunch with M. I was again lamenting about [younger daughter's] complexion. E is 13 now, and she is the one I am concerned with. During our discussion, we simultaneously, brought up the idea of hypnosis for E to help her break her habit of "picking her face." I told her about how I had once talked to this lady name Lucy, and M told me again about the "lady on the plane." She said that she had her card in her wallet, but had since cleaned it out, and didn't think she had it anymore. Low and behold, there's your card! As she passed it across the table, we both read your name, Lucy, one and the same! We both sat there quite stunned at this coincidence, and that's when I realized that maybe it was time I tried to set something up with you for E.
My response to the writer included information about TAT and EFT, as well as hypnosis to help E.  My approach would include stress management strategies and behavior modification in addition to hypnosis for clear skin.
How fun that here, two roads led back to "Go see Lucy!"



Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Feeling Left Out

One of my young clients sent me an email about an incident with good friends over the weekend that triggered some old patterns.  The result was that she was stuck in feelings of sadness and exclusion.  Here's my reply:

My suggestion is for you to take a few moments to yourself and try the following:
1.      Go into TAT heart pose (left hand on heart/chest, right hand over left)
2.      Say: Everything that led up to this feeling excluded happened.
               Notice what, if anything comes up for you. Then:
3.      Say:  All that happened, it's over.  It's now safe for me to feel good.
               Notice what, if anything comes up for you. Then:
4.      Think about how you'd like to feel or be and put it into this sentence:
               I choose to be/feel _________________ (happy? calm?  connected to my friends? okay?)
 Aside from this TAT intervention, think about your need to be by yourself sometimes, or with one friend and not the other.  It doesn't mean you don't like them or want to stop being friends.  Consider that in this case, your friends may not be very different from you.
Let me know how you're doing.

Friday, September 5, 2014

We Truly Are All One

Last week one of my TAT Professionals colleagues initiated an interesting discussion on our forum. 

Her initial question was, "How does TAT work?"  This morphed into, "How is it that we can do TAT on behalf of others," and elicited several testimonials about how we practitioners experience benefits as a side effect of our work on our clients.

In a chapter entitled "The Quantum You," Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, author Dr. Joe Dispenza offers a simple but profound explanation.

Essentially once two particles can be initially linked in some way, they will always be bonded together beyond space and time.  As a result, anything that is done to one will be done to the other even though they are spatially separated from one another. This means that since we are made up of particles, we are all implicitly connected beyond space and time.   What we do unto others, we do to ourselves.

 This Golden Rule effect (as I think of it) underscores the importance of intention in every aspect of our lives.  This is why a strong rapport between you and any healer, body worker or partner is so crucial to the success of  your joint endeavor.  If the person who's working with you, touching you, healing you is truly holding your highest good in mind and heart, the result can be magical.  For both of you.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Ah, Those Stubborn Shadows

I'm about half-way through a training program to be certified as a Transformational Coach.  Since I do a lot of coaching in my practice, it seemed like a logical and expansive step.

Interestingly, I have encountered a lot of resistance to the self-discovery exercises that have taken up most of the training to date.  Some old, stubborn negativity has been groaning up from the dark recesses of my subconscious like Marlow's ghost.

In moments of clear consciousness, I am taken aback by my thoughts and resulting behavior.  Who is this judgmental, cranky person?  Didn't I eradicate her long ago?

Apparently not.

See that snake in the shadow I unwittingly photographed on a walk one day?  Snakes carry the Medicine of Transmutation -- as they are able to hold poison without the poison killing them.  I never expected that this certification would be yet another path of purification for me, but that's exactly what it has been. 

The good news is that it didn't take me as long as it in the past to recognize the shadow and apply some Light to diffuse it.  Very good news, indeed.  Otherwise I'd worry that I haven't made any progress at all in nearly 25 years of working on myself.

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Computer Hangover

After yoga yesterday morning, I spent most of the day and much of the evening at the computer, working on writing I had to get done.  I was in a great place mentally, feeling creatively juicy and productive. 

As the day wore on, a dull, congested feeling began to edge out the elation of accomplishment.  By 10 pm I was depleted and went to bed. 

But a good night's sleep?  Not to be had.  I tossed and turned most of the night, dozing lightly and then just waking up.

At some point it occurred to me that I had OD'd on the computer.  That staring at a monitor for so many hours did something hideous to my brain, even as I was getting so much done.

This morning I was able to sleep in a bit, but the computer hangover lingers.  Anyone else out there experience this sort of thing?

I definitely need to get better at taking some real breaks when I spend a lot of time with keyboard and monitor.  The kind of suggestion I often make to stressed-out clients, of course!

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Doing it Anyway

One of my clients went outside of her comfort zone this past weekend.  I had asked her to email me about her experience.

She reported back that she had gone to the movies by herself and had sent out an email inquiry regarding a class she's wanted to take.

Because she felt "nervous and a little uncomfortable," she had  not seen that she had indeed taken two strong actions until I pointed it out to her. 

Yes, she has the inner strength to live a more confident life and this weekend she proved it to herself.  The more she lives her life from that strong, increasingly confident place inside, the stronger and more confident she will be.

In the office, we will continue with EFT, TAT and hypnosis to fill-in those old grooves of nervousness and discomfort, step by step.